I was talking to a friend of mine recently about marriage proposals and she was saying she doesn't have a person she feels complled to get married to. I didn't think much of it then. But later when I came across a quote a thought sparked in me. The quote was as follows:
"Great marriage does not happen out of luck or by accident. They are the result of a consistent investment of time, thoughtfulness, forgiveness, affection, prayer, mutual respect and a rock solid commitment between husband and wife".
When I went on to ask my then friend now husband if he liked me more than just a friend way this so called compulsion to be with that person was non existent. I had a feeling instead and thought to myself here is a guy I could marry. He seem like the kind I can spend the rest of my life with. There were lot of uncertainties but i took a leap of faith and so I went on to discuss marriage with him.
After that we spoke more about our expectations of a life partner, marriage, family, career kids etc. It was never anything about the external factors of physical beauty educational qualification wealth etc.that attracted me about him. My focus was on the internal. Ofcourse those external factors did matter but my primary focus was on the internal.
If you ask me the so called compulsion to be woth someone is something that grows with the passage of time. If the compulsion doesn't grow probably that person isn't the right one for you. This compulsion should strengthen if it is the right kind you were looking for.
I have come across several views on marriage. One goes like this, marriage is like a box which is empty at first. Then you fill it with love care, attention, forgiveness, patience and trust. You can take out only what you put in and you can never take out more than what you have put in.
Marriage should be a choice. Those who enter it should know what it means to them and those who dont wish to be married should be allowed ro remain single without being judgmental. To each his own.
